Saturday, January 5, 2013

October and November - Fun with Friends Part 2



The best rewards of having taken on this expat assignment, and coming to Brazil, have been the beautiful places we have visited and the wonderful friends we have made.  Put those two things together, and the fun is multiplied.  We spent the first weekend in October at our landlords’ “chacara” with our friends, Ann and John.  The weather was perfect for swimming and relaxing outdoors, complete with a “churrasco”.  Ian and Alex loved playing with Cooper and William, and I stayed entertained watching Elizabeth run around in her diaper (when she would leave it on!).  We spent the evening in good company and conversation, staring up at a beautiful, clear sky, dotted with many bright stars.  As I’ve written before, it is almost necessary to escape the city occasionally – for the clean air, and the peace and quiet that just never occurs in Sao Paulo.  We were all looking forward to another escape from reality, with a multi-family trip to the state of Bahia for a long holiday in November.

Holidays in Brazil seem to come along every other week – Matt gets about 20 days off for holidays a year.  It’s funny, if you ask most people what holiday is being recognized, they can’t tell you – all they know is that it’s another day off of work.  The best scenario is when a holiday happens to fall on a Thursday or a Tuesday, guaranteeing the Friday after, or Monday before as a free “bridge” day.  It just so happened that two of these long weekends occurred at the same time in the middle of November, giving most people six days in a row to get away.  Since we arrived and started hearing of all of the great places Brazil offers as vacation destinations, a trip to Bahia had been on our list of places to visit – this extra-long weekend seemed like the perfect opportunity.  Several of our friends, including Ann and John, had the same idea, so we decided to plan a group trip.  Working with a travel agent, five families got together for a very memorable and fun-filled vacation.  Some of us knew each other well, others had only met a couple of times or were only meeting for the first time; with so many people, it can be hard to know how the dynamics may be – but we need not have worried, everyone got along beautifully and had a great time together, and the kids were especially happy to have their friends with them.

Matt with John, Ann, and Bill at our pousada in Salvador
On the main street in Pelourinho
 
The eleven adults (Ann’s brother, Bill, was visiting and joined our group) and thirteen children between the ages of two and thirteen (including 3-year old triplets!) flew together and were met by our guide in the city of Salvador, which is the capital of the northeastern state of Bahia.  Salvador’s climate is very tropical, warm and humid year-round.  The city sits on a triangular peninsula between All Saints’ Bay and the Atlantic Ocean.  Its historical center, Pelourinho, is known for its Portuguese colonial architecture and historical monuments dating from the 17th to the 19th centuries, and has been declared a World Heritage Site.  After being shuttled to our little pousada in town, we took a tour of Pelourinho – walking along the original cobblestone streets, we were able to appreciate the bright colors and cheerful facades of the preserved buildings.  Women dressed in the traditional Bahia style – colorful turban-style headdress, a full dress (usually white), a shawl and plenty of jewelry – were found on street corners and in store fronts, happy to pose for pictures in exchange of a few reais.  The kids were “troopers” and really did well, despite the heat, having traveled the same day, and a lot of walking – after several hours of sight-seeing, our exhausted group returned to the pousada and spent the rest of the evening there, ordering a delivered dinner, adults talking and enjoying cocktails, and the kids running around and playing until they dropped.
Our adorable group of kids - they were so good!
  The next morning, the shuttle buses arrived early to take us to the port, where we boarded a catamaran for the three-hour ride across a 60 KM stretch of All Saints’ Bay to the island of Tinhare, where we stayed in the village of Morro de Sao Paulo (MSP).  The main destination on the island, Morro de Sao Paulo offers beautiful beaches, coves, and calm waters, as well as vast coconut groves.  The village’s name comes from the ruins of Sao Paulo Fort, which sits atop a hill at the northernmost point of the island, where you will also find an old lighthouse.  There are no cars allowed in the village, so the main means of transportation is your feet –you have to walk everywhere.  Occasionally, you will see a tractor or a horse-drawn “taxi” for those who have to go longer distances between beaches.  If you have a large load to carry, you can use the local method of moving goods from point A to point B – a wheelbarrow!  Once our catamaran pulled up to the dock, we were met by several local men who loaded our luggage into wheelbarrows and we followed them in a procession through the quaint town to our hotel.

Our luggage, loaded onto the wheelbarrows 


 Once settled into our hotel apartments, we walked a short distance to Segunda Praia (Second Beach) and found a place to have lunch.  It took a while to get all 24 of us situated and seated, and then the wait began…waiting to have our orders taken, waiting for our drinks (and for someone to bring a bottle opener so we could consume those drinks!), waiting for our food…the restaurant staff was very busy trying to tend to all of their hungry customers, but they also seemed to show the true meaning of “island time” – they were in no hurry.  While we waited, we walked to the edge of the water and couldn’t get over how calm and clear it was; the beach was crowded with women in scant bikinis and men wearing Brazilian sungas (“speedo” type swimwear) – there were people sunbathing, playing soccer, and practicing capoeira, a Brazilian martial art that combines elements of dance and music.  Eventually we returned to our table and finally had a seafood feast in the sand – with our bellies full, we returned to the beach for the rest of the afternoon and reluctantly dragged ourselves away as the sun began to set.  
Beautiful MSP with the fort and lighthouse in the background

 Our second day in MSP was designated as a free day, with no scheduled tours or activities, however, the beaches offer a wide variety of options for fun and relaxation.  A zip-line runs from the lighthouse at the top of the fort to the beach a few hundred meters below – most of the kids were too small to try this, but the one teenager of the bunch couldn’t wait to give it a go.  Matt and the boys had been looking forward to snorkeling; they rented a kayak, rowed out to a reef and were mesmerized by the number of colorful fish they saw; they said it was the best snorkeling they have ever done.  A few of our friends decided to relax on the beach and swim in the natural pools formed amid the many coral reefs, while a large group of us took advantage of horseback riding on the wide and practically deserted Quarta Praia (Fourth Beach).  It had been many years since I had been on a horse, but I was only nervous for a few short minutes.  Once we started on our way, all I could focus on was the sheer beauty surrounding me.  I have been blessed to visit so many amazing places with incredible views that I run out of words to describe them.  The crystal clear watered shimmered in the sun, the coconut groves lining the beach provided a brilliant green backdrop on the other side of the soft, white sand.  I was surprised and amused to see an official soccer match (with teams in uniforms) being played on the beach – we even had to stop our horses so one of the players could retrieve a ball that had rolled into our path.  After our ride, Matt and the boys, and some of our friends met up again at an outdoor restaurant and spent the afternoon eating, talking, laughing and relaxing on the beach – such a nice carefree feeling – it was my favorite day of our whole vacation.       

                  
 Our final full day in MSP was one we had all been eagerly anticipating, as we were to take a boat tour of the bay and some of the other islands.  I think I’m not the only one who had envisioned a peaceful, easy cruise on calm waters – boy, was I wrong!  The first sign of trouble came when the boat could not come close to the shore, due to its large motor – there was a risk that it could become caught on the coral below.  So, with bags and small children being held up high, we had to walk through water (above waist-level for most of us) to go out to the boat.  Unlike our very first boat ride in Brazil, when we were told NOT to put on the lifejackets, the first thing we did was to put them on the kids.  Though the sky was beginning to turn dark with storm clouds, we took off – and, I mean, we really took off.  Our boat drivers were going so fast through the rough and choppy waters that some of us were afraid the younger children would bounce out of the boat.  After bumping along for about 30 minutes, we stopped in the middle of the bay (along with several other tour boats) for a few minutes of snorkeling.  I wasn’t tempted to get into the cold water, especially given the fact that the air temperature was dropping and the sun was nowhere to be seen; but, Matt and the boys (and a few other brave souls) jumped in for a few minutes, only to come back disappointed because they couldn’t see any fish.  Once everyone was back on board, we sped off again to our next stop for more snorkeling.  Unfortunately, the storm was really moving in by then, so after only a few minutes, it was decided that we needed to move on and get to land, bypassing stop number three at a smaller island with no shelter.

 By this time, we were all feeling a bit cool, and even those of us who had not gotten into the water were wet.  We arrived to the island of Boipeba and sought shelter under the canopy of an open-air restaurant – we were all getting hungry, so it was a perfect place to rest after our wild ride and have some lunch.  While we waited for our food for entirely too long – island time again – and ate, the rain stopped and the sun came out.  Unfortunately, during this time, one of our friends, Lauren was watching one of her sons closely and seeing that he was developing an allergic reaction.  Conor, one of the triplets in our group, is severely allergic to all nuts; his mother is always very careful to monitor everything that he eats and drinks and always carries Benadryl with her.  When it became apparent that he had been in contact with something containing nuts, she gave him two doses, but was seeing that his condition was worsening.  Having left the Epi-pen and nebulizer (with which she always travels) back at the hotel, she started getting nervous and tried to figure out the best way to help her child (Conor’s last reaction landed him in the hospital for two days).  After weighing all of our options, including having everyone return to the hotel, one of the guides informed us that there was a clinic within walking distance.

The decision was made that I would go with Lauren, as I was the only one in our group fluent in Portuguese, and our Brazilian guide; the other guide (who spoke English) stayed with our group.  Lauren and I were wondering what kind of clinic we may find on a small island off of the northeast coast of Brazil, and we were surprised to see a gleaming, new building, only recently opened, thanks to money provided in preparation for the 2014 World Cup of soccer.  Our guide spoke to someone and explained the situation, and despite the large group of people in the waiting room, within minutes we were in a room and speaking with a nurse.  While we were waiting for the doctor, Lauren figured out that what had most likely caused the reaction was orange juice that she allowed Conor to have.  In Brazil, a very common fruit juice is that of the cashew plant – below the cashew nut, a fruit grows.  Lauren had not allowed Conor to eat French fries, due to not knowing what kind of oil they used, and to compensate, let him have some orange juice.  More than likely, the juice was prepared in the same blender as the cashew juice, hence the cross-contamination.  

Once the doctor arrived and examined Conor, he decided it would be best to keep him there for a few hours, ordering intravenous fluids and steroids, as well as three nebulizer treatments.  Our group was still waiting back at the restaurant, and the tide was starting to go down – the boat needed to leave in order to get onto the nearby river for the return trip to MSP.  I stayed with Lauren at the clinic while our guide went back to tell everyone what was going on and contracted a separate smaller boat to take us back when Conor was discharged.  While everyone else cruised (much more leisurely, I’m told) down the river, we sat at the clinic and waited as he gradually improved.  After all of the treatments were finished, the doctor deemed him well enough to leave, but wrote prescriptions for four different medications, which were filled immediately at the clinic pharmacy.  Lauren had asked about payment options, wondering if the clinic would accept credit cards – we were both astonished when we were told that the care Conor had received was completely free of charge – including his prescriptions.  We walked away from that clinic with a new appreciation for the free health care that was offered there and relieved that her little boy was back to his normal, healthy self.  Cruising back to join our families and friends, still a bumpy ride, but better than the ride earlier that day, we were able to watch the sunset – as the sky turned from blue to pink and orange and the sun dipped below the horizon, Lauren and I talked about the dramatic turn the day had taken – we were very grateful that in the end, all was good.


 We woke early on our final morning in MSP – the boys were in our room at 6:30AM asking if Matt would take them snorkeling “one last time, please, Dad!”  My initial reaction was to say no, that it was too early and we had to get ready to leave in just a few hours; but, apparently, Matt had promised and keeping his word, got out of bed, agreeing to take them.  I decided the packing could wait, and I joined them for the walk down to Terceira Praia (Third Beach) where the snorkeling is best – while they snorkeled, I continued walking on Fourth Beach and took in the breathtaking scenery one last time.  As I came back around to meet Matt and the kids, I watched them swimming back and forth and excitedly calling to one another about the fish they were seeing.  We were returning to Sao Paulo that day, but our friends were staying in Salvador one more night – they left a little earlier than we did, returning to the city via a five hour land transfer – or as they put it, “a boat, a bus, another boat, and another bus”.  Since we had a flight early that afternoon, we returned to Salvador by air taxi – a six-seat twin engine plane, a short 25-minute flight that took us straight to the Salvador airport.  None of us had ever been on a plane that small – the inside of it no bigger than our old minivan.  As we took off over the bay, with the coastline of MSP receding behind us and the turquoise sea below, we stared in awe and wonder at the beauty we were witnessing.  Again, I marveled at the wonderful experiences this opportunity of living in a beautiful foreign land has offered us.  I hope that these are memories that Ian and Alex keep with them forever – I know I certainly will.       

My little snorklers

            

October and November – Angel Party and Fun with Friends



Part one...
During the months of August and September, I became very busy with volunteer work.  Planning had begun for the American Society’s annual Angel Party – a Christmas party that we throw for 230 of Sao Paulo’s disadvantaged children.  As I wrote last year, this is a full day affair, starting off with lunch provided by McDonald’s, shows and games (with lots of great prizes), and a visit from Santa with each child receiving a full bag of goodies, including a backpack, new outfit, shoes, toys, and a sweet treat.  The planning of this party is a huge undertaking – volunteers need to be recruited and assigned jobs, prizes need to be purchased and sorted, donations secured, gift bags organized…the list goes on and on.  It takes a small army to make sure the party goes smoothly, and my main job was to coordinate all of the volunteers – hundreds of emails were exchanged and many hours went into getting everyone scheduled and making sure every job was covered.  It rained all day and night before the party, but on Saturday, we were relieved to see the clouds disappear and the sun came out strong.  This year, Matt and I decided the boys were old enough to help – the three of helped out with sports, and I was so proud to see them interacting with the local children.  The party was a huge success – our hard work had paid off, and seeing the smiles on the kids’ (and volunteers’) faces made it all worth it.  

Kids enjoying games at the Angel Party



 Another big accomplishment came the day after the Angel Party – the kids took the exam to receive their orange belts in Kung Fu.  They were a little less nervous than the first time, as they now knew what to expect; it was after the exam that their nerves got the better of them.  Waiting for the results to be posted was painful, as Ian became more stressed and convinced that he had not passed; it was such a relief the next morning to see that both boys had passed!  

Our new Orange Belts in Kung Fu

 From August to early November, the Angel Party wasn’t the only thing keeping me busy, as I was still acting as volunteer coordinator for the American Society.  It was through this role that I began volunteering regularly at a local children’s home.  Every week, another lady and I visit an “abrigo” – a group foster home – and spend a few hours with the children.  This particular home has several babies, all of whom have been born to drug-addicted mothers, most abandoned at the hospital just after their births, and a few who have been removed from their mothers’ care by social services.  Some of these precious little babies were also born with illnesses, such as toxoplasmosis and syphilis.  There are also older children, from two to seventeen years of age – all there due to abuse or neglect.  One of the young men who lives there is in a wheelchair and is immobile, except for limited use of his hands – he has a bright smile and great personality and loves to talk.  Our time in the home is spent mostly helping with the babies – feeding them, holding and cuddling them, changing them when they are dirty.  The home has a caring staff, but there just aren’t enough hands to care for 23 children (seven of them under the age of two).  We also make sure to give the older kids attention and take toys and games so they can play with something different for a while.  They love to ask us questions about ourselves, if we know any famous people in the U.S., and how to say phrases in English.  Their favorite thing, however, is when Denise (my volunteer buddy) takes out her I-phone or I-pad and lets them listen to music and play games.  I think the kids and staff have come to look forward to our time there – I know that going there every Thursday is the highlight of my week. 

With two of "my" babies
 To be continued...

Thursday, January 3, 2013

Patience and Rewards



If I’ve learned anything during our time here in Brazil, it’s the virtue of patience.  From the beginning, while waiting for our Visas to be approved, our Brazilian experience has been a true test of patience.  Guns-N-Roses’ hit song, “Patience”, is running through my head as I type this – no, all the lyrics do not apply, but the key words from the chorus do – “all we need is just a little patience”.  This applies to everything here, it seems – from the slow check-out lines at the grocery store, to waiting for elevators, to the ever-worsening traffic conditions.  I have written before that my yoga classes have really helped me remain sane while living in Sao Paulo – the breathing and relaxation exercises I have learned are employed regularly – they have proven effective in Wal-Mart, as well as during the short commute to my kids’ school.  Matt has required a lot of patience to deal with the challenges he faces at work, and even more with the ever-present concern of what his next job (with Alcoa, or not) will be.  Patience, however, does have its rewards.
   
So much has happened in the many months since I last wrote (6 months ago!) – I will now try to bring this journal up to date.  I should start by saying, “Happy New Year”!  We are three days into 2013, which is very hard to believe – where does time go?!  I believe I’ve asked this question several times throughout my writing.  I find it remarkable that we have now almost come full-circle, and are beginning to plan our return to the U.S. – once again, though, waiting for our Visas (which are about to expire) to be renewed for our final months here.  I think I’ll hit the imaginary rewind button and start back in June and work forward until now…this may take a few days and several pages (which I will break down into sections). 
  
Summer (Winter) Break
After all of our farewells at the beginning of June, we were looking forward to several weeks with family and friends in the U.S.  The kids and I traveled three weeks ahead of Matt; he had to stay behind to work, and joined us later.  It wasn’t entirely by coincidence that we were on the same flight with my friend Nancy and her family.  During our walks and talks, I mentioned to Nancy that we would be flying through Detroit on a Delta flight, and that it would be great if they ended up on our flight.  Since the dates worked out for them, they were able to book the same flight and we traveled together.  It was definitely a bonus to get to put off saying goodbye until the last moment, and it was bittersweet for me to be the first to welcome them “home” once we arrived in Detroit.  I had held it together pretty well until the time Nancy and her sweet husband and kids came around the corner with three carts loaded down with 15 suitcases – knowing the time had come to say goodbye got the tears flowing.  After many hugs, a few more tears, and promises to see one another sometime in the future, the Villeneuves walked through the doors and resumed life in the U.S.


 
The boys and I continued on our trip and arrived in Pittsburgh for a six day stay; we were met at the airport by a smiling Cilissa – it was so good to see her!  Our days in Pittsburgh passed in a blur – I attended a conference for continuing education during the first three days there, and the rest of our time was spent visiting friends and going to various appointments with the dentist, pediatrician, and orthodontist.  The kids were thrilled to be with their friends again – Ian spent a day at Kennywood with his best bud, Alex Cassese, while our Alex spent the afternoon tubing on Conneaut Lake with Tim and Jacob.  One unexpected occurrence was that Alex had an expander placed at the last minute, literally an hour before we left to go to WV – I had only taken him in for a consult, but the orthodontist decided his crowded mouth needed intervention ASAP – from one day to the next he had a mouthful of plastic.  Cilissa had kindly offered to drive us to Huntington, as she was dropping her kids off with their grandparents – we left the orthodontist office and the seven of us packed into her car and were on our way.

Our moms were anxiously awaiting our arrival and were so happy to have their boys with them again – you couldn’t wipe the smiles off of their faces – it felt so good to be “home”!  It is funny how many different places take on the meaning of “home” and give us that sense of comfort.  The summer temperatures were soaring, but that didn’t keep us from enjoying time with our families, sharing meals together, and doing a lot of talking.  We visited Chad and Stephanie’s new house, which was almost finished, and the boys had fun playing with Riley and Sydney.  After a week, the kids and I drove with my mom to Richmond to visit Jennifer and her family; Eric, Jenn, and Amelia were also there – what a sweet reunion that was.  My mom was so happy to have all of her kids and grandchildren under one roof.  Our days together passed quickly – I thoroughly enjoyed seeing my nieces, Amelia and Annika, and my nephew, Luca – they grow and change so much at their young ages.  Ian and Alex had a great time with their cousins, and especially enjoyed a day at Busch Gardens amusement park in Williamsburg.  I happily stayed (feel firmly planted on solid ground) with my mom and the little ones, while the bigger kids (including the adult kids!) took advantage of the thrill rides – the 97 degree heat did not deter them at all.  They rode roller coasters and other rides that I wouldn’t ride even if someone paid me – they definitely get their brave and daredevil ways from someone else!

 Two nights before we were due to leave Richmond and return to WV, a ferocious and unexpected storm moved through the area.  The power at Jen’s went out at about 10:30 that Friday night and came on the next day at about noon.  We later found out that what had occurred was called a “super derecho” – a severe widespread and long-lived wind storm that accompanies rapidly moving showers or thunderstorms.  The hurricane-force winds left millions without power, closed down gas stations, and killed many; the states of VA, WV, and OH declared states of emergency.  Mom and I left the following day, fortunately filling our gas tank before leaving Richmond.  West Virginia was one of the harder-hit areas and driving through was a very eerie experience.  It really looked like a ghost town – every exit we took greeted us with traffic lights that weren’t working, empty streets, closed gas stations, and businesses with the lights off and doors closed.  The few stations that were operating had lines of cars up to 4 hours long and were limiting customers to seven gallons each.  There wasn’t a police car in sight, and the highway was dotted with abandoned cars on the shoulders, having run out of gas.
 
It turns out that Jen was very lucky to only have lost power for 12 hours, as many people went without for several days, and in some cases two or more weeks – my parents didn’t have power at their house for 5 days.  By some stroke of luck, John and Deanna were spared the power outage and had air conditioning to help with the stifling heat (the temperatures were over 100 degrees).  Needless to say, the boys and I went where there was light, refrigeration, and A/C.  While still in Brazil, Matt worked and traveled (for work), but made good use of his free time playing tennis and visiting Monte Verde with his friend, John (whose wife and kids were also away).  In this mountain town, a three hour drive from Sao Paulo, they took advantage of the outdoor adventure sports offered in the area and went on an 800 meter zip-line, did some mountain climbing, as well as four-wheeling through the mountains.  Matt arrived in WV on July 6th – it was nice to be together again, as it was the first time we’d been apart for more than two weeks – despite the fact that we had been busy and enjoying ourselves, the kids and I had missed him.

After spending the weekend in Huntington, we packed our suitcases (again!) and left for our camp on the Greenbrier River.  There aren’t too many places where we feel as peaceful and relaxed as we do at camp – the scenery is beautiful, with the river surrounded by lush green hills; the air is fresh and clean, and the sounds of nature surround and envelop you.  The kids are completely carefree there, splashing in the river, searching for bait, and spending hours with fishing poles in hand patiently waiting for their next catch.  This year, Alex really found the angler within – during one canoe trip with Matt, he managed to hook a citation-worthy musky.  They rowed back to the shore and yelled for everyone to go see his catch – I don’t know that I’ve ever seen such a big and bright smile on his face!  The musky, measuring almost 42 inches and weighing in at 18 pounds, was too big for him to hold up on his own.  After taking several pictures (Matt, Papa John, and Ian also were photographed with this river monster), they loaded the fish into John’s truck and drove into town to the local bait shops for the official measurements and documentation.  Not to be outdone by his little brother, Ian was determined to catch a musky of his own.  The next day, Matt took him out in the canoe, and after spotting another (even bigger) musky, Ian was able to hook it; after reeling it in for about two minutes, the fish broke Ian’s line and took off with bait and hook still in its mouth.  He was disappointed, but isn’t giving up – he can’t wait to go back next summer and try again.  Alex later received a certificate from the WV Division of Natural Resources, and had his picture posted in the bait shop and on their Facebook page, as well as a picture of him with his musky in a local fishing publication.  It certainly was the highlight of his summer!


 After a memorable and relaxing week at camp, it was time to pack for what felt like the hundredth time and return to Huntington for a few more days with family before our return to Brazil.  Several loads of laundry later, the suitcases were packed for our final destination – back to Sao Paulo.  It is always hard to leave the U.S. and our families, but it does feel good to get back to our real home – our own beds, our own space, among our own things.  Upon our return, we caught up with the friends we had missed over the break, and met several of the new families who had arrived and joined our expat community.  The kids enjoyed a few free days before returning to school and a routine.  Soon enough, we were back to daily drop-off and pick-up, homework, kung fu, and volunteering – before we knew it, life was “back to normal” and August and September were gone.

To be continued...